I have been trying to play with a shift in how I view my self-care. I'm experimenting with changing my language from routine to ritual. I'm sure I'll have much more to say about that once some other things I'm working on shake out. I'll keep you updated on that.
But I'm getting into the practice of exploring the balance of flexibility and discipline. I know what I want to do. I know why I want to do it. But the getting it done part? That has to be flexible. I need more than one opportunity each day because - friends - my mind can be super forgetful.
Big example: skin care.
Every winter, I get scaly skin on my upper arms and elbows. I just get so dry. Over the summer, I got into a great routine of dry brushing and lotion slathering, but then (for no real reason) I got out of the routine. And it is SO HARD to get back into it. Especially when my bathroom is chilly and I just want to jump in the shower. (Or maybe the fact that my bathroom is chilly is the exact reason I've gotten out of the practice. That's interesting, huh?)
I can't tell you how many times I've jumped in the shower and felt the water hit me and let out a profanity. I had forgotten to dry brush. I'm not going to get out of the shower, dry off, and then brush. Crap, crap, crap. And if I don't dry brush, I don't lotion. I'm just not. It may be that the two just go together, or it may be a deeper if I don't remember one part, I don't deserve the other. But the end result? I get scaly.
I ended up looking under my sink for something the other day, and I found a Christmas gift from last year that i had forgotten about: I had a Buffy Bar! This Lush bar has rice, almonds, and beans ground up in it to exfoliate AND it is super moisturizing.
I have a Plan B.
So the Buffy Bar is in my shower. I still try to remember to use my body brush (and am moving it around my bathroom to find out where to make it most visible but also keep it dry). But I have found a way to give myself a second chance. My skin care routine is not pass-fail. I have options. I have more opportunities to take good care of me.
And that's what I'm committed to doing.